Saturday, February 13, 2010

Raise Self-Esteem

Raise Self-Esteem
Low self esteem? How should we think about this?? High self esteem?
How are they different? Self-image is a assortment of messages we have
taken in about ourselves over long periods of time. If the messages are
predominantly sunny ones, the average self-image we have, or more
specifically, our sense of esteem for ourselves, is good.
We have a good self-image. If the messages are predominantly bad ones,
the average self-image we have, or more specifically, our sense of
esteem we have for ourselves, is bad.
Self-esteem emerges out of the millions and millions of individual "
introjects" (inputs we "inculcate;" that is, take in, own, as real about
ourselves, etc. over the entire span of our lives.) It starts accumulating from
day one and does not cease evolving, for better or worse. If you consider the
dynamics of this process, believe it or not, both low and high self-esteems are
formed in the exact same way. Only the content of our minds vary, which has a
crummy effect on our moods.
In the beginning, individual dealings (thoughts, experiences, messages
taken in) have a massive impact on our self-esteems. That's because we are
vulnerable, like most children are, and also because there are less other
images in our skulls with which to average the new, incoming message. So,
one or two new messages has a greater impact on the average experience we
have about ourselves.
At the other end of life, we have millions of messages already in place,
bouncing around inside our heads, most of them neatly catalogued in the back
of our awareness. This creates a more robust, less modifiable databank.
In other words, it's harder to change self-image in older people just by putting in
new ideas, because there are already too many old ones in place.
I've developed a technique that uses some specific "mental" cognitions
to change our feelings. It turns out it's not our thoughts that change self
esteem. It's our feelings. And, feelings can be manipulated by consciously bringing
up certain strategic thoughts, thus changing the feeling (because feelings follow t
houghts in adults).
You control the thoughts and you're your feelings change. Thus, you
strategically apply the feelings, using the new feeling that comes in a
specific way. It's a combination of two surprisingly effective techniques
that work--far better than the usual superficial techniques offered in the
pop-psychology literature. It is not significant if your self-esteem has been
crummy for a little while or your whole life. You're not going to try to change
the whole ball of wax, just one thought at a time. I tell you how. It's actually
a little backwards from what you might expect. You have to start small and work
up, not think big and try to generate a trickle-down effect. The latter is what
we find in the pop-psych literature. That fails.
It also doesn't matter if your self-esteem is very, very bad or just a
little impaired. The same technique works equally well for both conditions.
But you have to understand the philosophy and techniques behind this breakthrough
idea, and for that, you have to read more of what I've written.
Hello, I've been an outpatient psychologist for over twenty years. I'
ve come across eight psychological conditions that I see every day. Self-esteem is
one of them, and it's one that permeates all the other seven. Improve self-esteem and
the others improve, too. Below are some links to take you to my webpages, where more
details are provided.

-Dr. Griggs

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